Aim of today’s post: reflect on whether last night was as bad of a night as I thought it was.
Last night while I was getting ready to go out for dinner with a really good friend from school who I hadn’t seen in a while, out of nowhere, I got dumped. I had finished my exams a couple of days before and was extremely looking forward to enjoying my summer and spending time with this boy I liked. However, little did I know, we were clearly on a different page. Let’s be honest it was a blow in the face. I think I had never really experienced the feeling of liking someone but them not liking you back, or not liking you as much as you’d like them to. I still ended up going out for dinner with my friend to a place called ‘chica bonita’ in manly, which I really recommend by the way! We ate delicious food and she really cheered me up. To finish the evening we had some frozen yogurt which was simply awesome. But when I got home I still felt really upset.
Without trying to be too poetic or philosophical, I think that sometimes in life it is easy to start getting very upset and emotional when something bad happens to you. However, I think that a crucial mistake is to forget to lift your chin up, look around you and realise that, yes, maybe something unfortunate has happened but could it have been worse? I strongly believe that often you will realise that searching for the best outcomes out of any possible unfortunate situation can only help you and make you a stronger person.
This year has not been the best year for me. I know that I will most definitely experience worse things than what I’ve experienced but, nevertheless, there were moments when I was just unhappy. I do not wish to go into the details about it all really but it had to do with a combination of things. One night when I was feeling so down and had been crying for hours in my room my younger sister came in and hugged me all night. I will never forget that moment. Since that night I have become closer and closer with her and I treasure every moment we spend together. I am so grateful to have a sister and to be so close with her. Even though my sister is three years younger than me (she is 17) she was the one who pulled me up and made me feel better. She wrote me a letter which was so powerful that I actually keep it in my bedside table and still read it from time to time.
The key message which I got from her letter was:
YOU ARE ONLY AS HAPPY AS YOU LET YOURSELF BE!!!
Even though sometimes you may feel like nothing on earth could possibly make you feel better and during those times it is hard to hear that “you are only as happy as you let yourself be.” My sister said to me: “you know life is going to throw so much shit into you but, as unpleasant as it is to hear this, YOU are the one that is going to have to fight and let yourself OVERCOME these issues so that you will be able to stand proud one day and think: yeah, see so much shit was thrown into my face but I managed to overcome them and be happy.”
I strongly believe that this idea can be applied to any unfortunate situation, no matter how big or small. No matter whether your problem is that you feel lonely, heartbroken, unhappy about the way you look, feel like you will never be able to achieve what you would like to or whether you are in debt, grief or remorse. Whether you are living in the most beautiful house surrounded with a beautiful family yet something inside you just does not feel happy and you would rather lock yourself in your room than go out and be happy or if you are living in a small apartment alone and your whole place has just been destroyed by a cyclone like many people in the Philipines at the moment just remember one thing: YOU ARE ALLOWED TO FEEL DOWN. Now it is just a matter of letting yourself absorb the shock of the hardship and then work with your own self to get happier.
Also remember to turn to the closest people in your life, trust me, there are a lot of people that do care about you. It may be your mum, sister, friend, cousin, work colleague, dog or gym buddy… there will definitely be someone who will be happy to listen to what you have to say, comfort you and give you advice.
That’s it for me. I actually feel much better after having written this post :) I hope that I have given some of you helpful tips.
Advice of the day: everything is relative… never forget to put things into perspective and remember: you are only as happy as you let yourself be!